Like so many questions in foster care - the answer was, "Maybe and it depends." Every situation is different. A lot depends on the wishes of the child themselves and their birth family.
I had a Muslim boy with me for a short time and it was his parents a expressed desire that he not attend a Christian church in ANY manner at ANY time. For various reasons he moved on quickly, but if he had stayed I am not sure how we would have handled it, but for one sweet moment I saw something sweet. During dinner one night he looked and me right in the eye and said, "WAIT, you guys are Christians aren't you?" Me, "Yup, I am. And your family is Muslim." He said, "Yeah... Wow, I have never stayed at a Christians house before."
But, the vast majority of my kids have either had a Christian background or no religious affiliation and were okay with attending church with me.
I like to let the kids take the lead in spiritual matters and I answer the questions. Here is an example, a month or so back, Buddy asked me why we don't pray before we eat. I told him that was a great question. Which was followed by a bunch of other questions, like what is prayer, why we pray, how we pray, etc, etc. I answered questions as they came up. Not pushing the issue, just answering questions.
Now, every meal time I ask, "Who wants to pray?" Inevitably all three hands shoot up. They all want to talk to God - to thank him for the good things and ask for help with the hard things. And they really do say the sweetest and most sincere things at every meal.
- Thank you for this house, and Alisa, and Bug, and Buddy, and the fish, and Sunday School, and my family and oh God, just thank you for everything. ~Monkey
- I wish that I would be in charge of everything, everywhere. ~Bug
- Thank you that we don't touch our food when we pray (AS he is touching his food as he's praying). ~Buddy
And there are those private and tender prayers that all my kids pray - some quietly, some occasionally and some every single mealtime:
- Please help my family - my mom, my dad, my grandma, my grandpa, my aunts, my uncles and everyone else be happy, healthy and get better soon.
- I wish I could live with my family again soon.