One way to keep our focus, our hearts, our education on both aspects is to immerse ourselves in the reality of the joy, the pain, the complexity, is to intentionally hear stories from ALL members of the adoption triad on a regular basis.
Adoption parents, adoptees and birth parents. All voices.
I am a pinterest girl and one way that I have found to do that, and not get sucked into the oh so sugary sweet that are adoption pins (some of which I love btw), is to follow all kinds of boards.
To do this -
- Type "adoptee" "birth mom" "birth parent" into the search bar on the top left (once you start adding, think of other search items regarding adoption, that might not be posted by adoptive families or agencies - to find these, search "adoption" "adoptive parent" "foster care").
- Click boards (this way they will show up in your main pinterest list as you are looking for new pins)
- FOLLOW the boards that look interesting and relevant.
It really is that simple. Now when you are browsing, you'll see all members of the triads voices. and THAT is so valuable - for your child, your child's birth family and for yourself.