Monday, June 16, 2014

Well Rounded Pinterest

Its quite easy to get a skewed picture of adoption.  To see it as wholly beautiful.  Or wholly terrible.  Those of us in the thick of it know its not that easy.  Its such a mixed bag.

One way to keep  our focus, our hearts, our education on both aspects is to immerse ourselves in the reality of the joy, the pain, the complexity, is to intentionally hear stories from ALL members of the adoption triad on a regular basis.

Adoption parents, adoptees and birth parents.  All voices.

Intentionally.

I am a pinterest girl and one way that I have found to do that, and not get sucked into the oh so sugary sweet that are adoption pins (some of which I love btw), is to follow all kinds of boards.

To do this -

  1. Type "adoptee" "birth mom" "birth parent" into the search bar on the top left (once you start adding, think of other search items regarding adoption, that might not be posted by adoptive families or agencies - to find these, search "adoption" "adoptive parent" "foster care").
  2. Click boards (this way they will show up in your main pinterest list as you are looking for new pins)
  3. FOLLOW the boards that look interesting and relevant.



It really is that simple.  Now when you are browsing, you'll see all members of the triads voices. and THAT is so valuable - for your child, your child's birth family and for yourself.

Monday, June 9, 2014

Bearing Witness to Life

Sometimes I find a quote that just resonates with me - this is one that still is shaking me up -

“Was it the act of giving birth that made you a mother? Did you lose that label when you relinquished your child? If people were measured by their deeds, on the one hand, I had a woman who had chosen to give me up; on the other, I had a woman who'd sat up with me at night when I was sick as a child, who'd cried with me over boyfriends, who'd clapped fiercely at my law school graduation. Which acts made you more of a mother?

Both, I realized. Being a parent wasn't just about bearing a child. It was about bearing witness to its life.”
― Jodi Picoult, Handle with Care

Saturday, May 17, 2014

Sesame Street: Change The World

The Sesame Street Muppet from the hit song "I Love My Hair" now sings "Change the World," an inspirational song empowering children with the idea that they can be anything they want to be




Sunday, April 13, 2014

Books that Highlight Our BIG and Beautiful World

I don't know about you, but as a trans-racial adoptive parent, I am ALWAYS looking for books that I can share with my daughter to show her that our family is the same in so many ways as other families, but that there is also uniqueness in our adoption history together as well as our family make-up.  I recently stumbled across Usborne books, that produces and sells some books that I have never heard of or saw, but was excited to look through as soon as I had the chance.  I wanted to share those books with you as well.  Below are some of my favorites on adoption, non-white heros/heroines, cultural awareness as well as a healthy does of fun.  

Teaching our kids to see how big and beautiful the world is doesn't have to be hard, or stressful or too serious.  Have fun and help show our kids that we are all different and we are all the same with these fun new books!

To order or view more details on these books {and many, many more}  Click on the links below the descriptions - to suggest more - use the comment box below

{Alisa}


The Best Family in the World
Carlotta anxiously awaits the arrival of her new family. What will they be like? She imagines all kinds of wonderful families…astronauts, pastry chefs, even pirates. How nice to find out that they are all that and more ... the best family in the world.




Nina Bonita
This beautiful and charming story deals with a sensitive subject in a sensitive way. "Black is beautiful" to a little white rabbit and while trying to discover the secret that will make him black, readers get a funny, yet educational introduction to basic genetics.



Splash, Anna Hibiscus!
Anna Hibiscus lives in Africa.  Amazing Africa.  Today she is at the beach with her whole family. The sun is hot. The sand is hot. The laughing waves are splashing! Who will come and splash with Anna? Another joyous Anna Hibiscus picture book featuring warm family relationships fromBoston Globe-Horn Book Honor winner Atinuke!




Anna Hibiscus' Song
Anna Hibiscus is so filled with happiness that she feels like she might float away. And the more she talks to her mother and father and grandfather and grandmother and aunties and cousins about it, the more her happiness grows! There’s only one thing to do … Sing!  From the author and illustrator of the acclaimed Anna Hibiscus series, this stand-alone story highlighting Anna’s warm, loving multigenerational family and life in modern Africa will have fans singing with happiness!




Marc Just Couldn't Sleep
It's bedtime, but Marc just can't sleep. He's scared. He's worried. What if a giant mosquito gets into his room? What if he falls out of bed? What if the moon melts? Mom to the rescue! A mosquito repellent teddy bear, notes to the wind and the moon, mountain climbing ropes…nothing works. What's a mom to do? The solution turns out to be simple enough to help even the most reluctant sleepy head off to dreamland.





Fashion Dolls: Africa, China, India, Japan & the Islands
Filled with interesting facts about the food, holiday traditions, clothing , flora and fauna, the Fashion Dolls series takes paper dolls to a whole new level, allowing children to learn about culture and customs with creativity.  Each Fashion Dolls book contains blank silhouettes as well as stencils and stickers … everything a child needs to create the beautiful fashions of our world.




























The Nights of the World
We're pleased to introduce five children from five different regions of the world. You're invited to discover how each child sleeps and then, once the tab is pulled, the shutter opens to reveal the same child and the same place during the day.  Everyone closes their eyes the same way, but then what? An original way in which to discover other places and people and to learn about similarities and differences.




Sticker Dolly Dressing Dream Jobs
Meet best friends Leyla, Katy and Becca, who are dreaming about the kinds of jobs they might do when they grow up. Use the stickers to dress the girls as they imagine caring for elephants in Africa, designing costumes in a blockbuster movie, being a doctor in a busy hospital and lots, lots more.




Peoples of the World
This superb book takes a continent-by continent journey through the everyday lives of the six billion people who inhabit our planet. Stunning photographs and detailed maps will help you to gain a better understanding of customs and traditions, religious beliefs and festivals, how governments work, and how people travel.




Sticker Dolly Dressing Around the World
In this book you will find dolls from different countries in the world. Use the stickers to dress them in their traditional costumes, from beautiful silk sari at an Indian wedding to the elegant flamenco dresses in Spain.



To order or view more details on these books {and many, many more}  Click on the links below the descriptions - to suggest more - use the comment box below.

Saturday, March 22, 2014

Adopt a... a highway, a road, an idea, a pet, a family, a school, a block, a park or a classroom


Language is a funny thing.  We have words that can only mean one thing, like a circle.  A circle in all of its various forms, is either called a circle or it has a different, more descriptive name.  We call things that are in the shape of a circle, the name of the thing - ie. a ball, a hull-a-hoop, a face, a wheel - not simply circle.  Its simply not descriptive enough.

But for some of our most meaningful concept words, we apply them to all sorts of things.  Take love for example.  I love my daughter yes, but I also love coffee, walks, my wrap, sleeping in and meaningful conversations.  I love all those things - to lesser or greater degrees.

Adopt (and Adoption) is another one of those words, that we use in all sorts of ways.  I never thought of it before I adopted myself.  Oh wait, I should be more clear, until I adopted a child.  A human being.  Not a highway, a road, an idea, a pet, a family, a school, a block, a park or a classroom.  Before I adopted a child.  Of course those who have been a part of the journey know that there is a human being involved, but looking at google, you might wonder.

Here are the top -55 or so results when I goggled, "Adopt a..."

As far as I can tell, 3 out of the top 55 are about adopting a child.  And this bothers me.


I know what a powerful, life altering, not-to-be-taken-lightly thing adoption is.  For ALL involved, and to see it literally in the same category as "Adopt A Hottie"  and "Adopt a Hydrant" is surprising.

So, in my little corner of the world, I am asking people to choose a different word if they are talking about anything other than the most serious process of giving a home to a child who literally doesn't have one.  You can support your school, clean up your highways, be the best darn owner of a pet out there, but I feel like the word adoption should mean something deeper.

So, I for one am taking the word back.


Has anyone else felt this way?  What have you done about it?  Does it make a difference what word people use?  Am I being silly?

Friday, March 21, 2014

Christina Perri - Music that Keep Me Sane: 2

Not a twilight fan, at all really, but this music is beautiful! And haunting. And I love it.




Christina Perri - A Thousand Years

Heart beats fast
Colors and promises
How to be brave
How can I love when I'm afraid
To fall
But watching you stand alone
All of my doubt
Suddenly goes away somehow

One step closer

I have died every day
waiting for you
Darlin' don't be afraid
I have loved you for a
Thousand years
I'll love you for a
Thousand more

Time stands still
beauty in all she is
I will be brave
I will not let anything
Take away
What's standing in front of me
Every breath,
Every hour has come to this

One step closer

I have died every day
Waiting for you
Darlin' don't be afraid
I have loved you for a
Thousand years
I'll love you for a
Thousand more

And all along I believed
I would find you
Time has brought
Your heart to me
I have loved you for a
Thousand years
I'll love you for a
Thousand more

One step closer
One step closer


I have died every day
Waiting for you
Darlin' don't be afraid,
I have loved you for a
Thousand years
I'll love you for a
Thousand more

And all along I believed
I would find you
Time has brought
Your heart to me
I have loved you for a
Thousand years
I'll love you for a
Thousand more


What music (songs, artists) is keeping you sane right now? I wanna check it out - post a link in the comments!